When Your Child... is Stuck Feeling Guilty + changes ahead

2-min. video | Open Door For Parents with Dr. Eileen


(80 sec. Would you rather read? A transcript is at the bottom of this post.)

Some tender-hearted kids have a hard time forgiving themselves when they make a mistake. Here are some ideas for helping them move past guilt.

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Video Transcript

Guilt is a feeling that tells us when we've done something wrong. It can be a healthy pinch of conscience that helps us make better choices, but sometimes kids get tangled up in too much guilt.

Hi, I'm Dr Eileen. When kids are feeling overly guilty they may dwell endlessly on what they've done wrong or they may even say, “I'm the worst kid in the world!” 

Here are some questions to help your child ease past excessive guilt: 

- Did you do it on purpose? 

- Will it matter a week a month or a year from now? 

- Are you the only person who has ever done this? 

- What have you done to try to make things right? 

- What can you do differently from now on? 

After thinking about these questions, your child can think or say, “I forgive myself,” and move on.