When Your Child... Is in the Middle of a Meltdown

2-min. video | Open Door For Parents with Dr. Eileen

(105 seconds. Video transcript at bottom)

We’ve all been there… trying to deal with a kid who’s in a full-blown meltdown. This week’s 2-minute video offers some practical ideas about how to move past those difficult moments. Hint: It doesn’t involve trying to talk to your child while they’re screaming.

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Video Transcript

Hi, I’m Dr. Eileen, an author and clinical psychologist based in Princeton, New Jersey. 

I once read this hilarious study where the researchers analyzed audio recordings of kids having tantrums. What they found was that there was a shift in pitch somewhere in the tantrum. 

I remember this from when my kids were little and having tantrums. They would start out with this very angry tone, and then, at some point, they would shift to with felt like more of a sad tone. 

Listen for that shift. If your child is furiously angry, don't try to talk to them. If there are other people around, you might want to try to help your child get out of the situation, but don't get too close. Wait until you hear that shift to the more sad tone. Then you can try to approach your child with two questions that you're pretty sure they're going to say yes to. So, you might ask, “Would you like a tissue?” Yes, because they have snot all over their face! “Would you like a drink of water?” Yes, because their throat is sore from yelling for however long they’ve been yelling. 

Once you get those two yeses, you are well on the way to having a reasonable child to deal with. Then you can figure things out together